Making A Life of One’s Own
Kate Bolick’s blockbuster Atlantic cover story, “All the Single Ladies,” drew over a million readers and inspired a heated debate on modern notions of romance, family, career, and success. Now, she presents her book Spinster and invites us into her carefully considered, passionately lived life. Why do some women remain unmarried, she asks, and what are the cultural implications of staying single?
“Spinster is a triumph, a provocative and moving exploration of what it means for a woman to chart her own course.”— Malcolm Gladwell
When Kate Bolick’s 2011 Atlantic story, “All the Single Ladies” was published, it marked only the third time in the magazine's storied history that a female author had appeared on the cover. Interest in Bolick’s marquee article was so intense that it landed her a book deal. Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own “sets forth a clear vision not just for single women, but for all women: to disregard the reigning views of how women should live, to know their own hearts and to carve out a little space for their dreams” (The New York Times).
“One of the most important works of feminist cultural history of the last 20 years.”— National Post
As a writer and speaker, Bolick uses lively, relatable language to bring complicated, deeply researched ideas to wide audiences. She is a contributing editor for The Atlantic, freelance writer for ELLE, The New York Times, and The Wall Street Journal (among other publications), and host of “Touchstones at The Mount,” an annual literary interview series at Edith Wharton’s country estate in Lenox, MA. Previously, she was executive editor of Domino, and a columnist for The Boston Globe Ideas Section. A recipient of a MacDowell fellowship, she holds a Master’s in cultural criticism from New York University, where she also taught writing.
Bolick has appeared on The Today Show, CBS Sunday Morning, CNN, Fox News, MSNBC, and numerous NPR programs across the country.
“Whom to marry, and when will it happen—these two questions define every woman’s existence.” So begins this bold, original keynote from journalist and cultural critic Kate Bolick. Using her own experiences as a starting point, Bolick weaves together the past and present to examine why she—along with over 100 million American women, whose ranks keep growing—remains unmarried.
After a half century of ascent for women, which coincided with the descent of men, we’ve reached a historical point where career-minded women are finding fewer suitable mates, and are marrying later and in fewer numbers. What does this mean for women, for men, and for our society? This unprecedented demographic shift, Bolick explains, is the logical outcome of hundreds of years of change that has neither been fully understood, nor appreciated. It’s an unreservedly inquisitive talk that asks us to acknowledge the opportunities that exist within ourselves to live authentically.
Today, increasing numbers of adults across North America are single—and not only are they unattached, but they’re happy to be that way. At the same time, companies are still failing to market to—or in any way target—this massive, exploding demographic, which represents millions of people and hundreds of billions of dollars in spending power. To make matters more astonishing, many companies still don’t know who these single people are, because culture itself is still trafficking in outdated perceptions, myths, and stereotypes—think shopworn themes like “busy moms” and “digitally obsessed millennials.”
In this timely keynote, Kate Bolick demystifies the singles market and debunks our most pernicious cultural depictions. Single people shop and spend differently than coupled people. They're not necessarily obsessed with dating or getting married. They are far more social than is believed. They spend a lot of time and money on themselves, and also on others. Moreover, single people resent their invisibility in the culture at large. They are tired of living in a world where they are misunderstood—especially when everything is marketed to married people with children. This means that there’s not only a great deal of money to be made by accurately representing single people, but doing so actually improves the social fabric, as the ads we live with are an enormous factor in shaping perceptions. The only way to truly get rid of outdated perceptions of who singles are, Bolick argues, is to create a media world that reflects their reality.