Want to Be Happy? You Don’t Have to Be So Positive All the Time. How This Refreshing Advice Worked for Mark Manson.
Manson offers self-help for people who hate self-help—counterintuitive advice for people wary of the sometimes-vapid, phony world of motivational speakers. And he delivers his message with a raw yet relatable style. For example, this recent blog post begins like this:
In my life, I have given a f*ck about many people and many things. I have also not given a f*ck about many people and many things. And those f*cks I have not given have made all the difference.
In short, Manson’s work isn’t about apathy at all. It’s about selectively directing your energy towards the things that you can change, and that will have long-term impact on your life. Or, as he expresses it:
Because when we give too many f*cks, when we choose to give a f*ck about everything, then we feel as though we are perpetually entitled to feel comfortable and happy at all times, that’s when life f*cks us.
Behind the book’s eye-catching title, Manson’s brand of self-help resonates with a large swath of young, educated millennials seeking something more than the pure positivity being hawked by manyspeakers. When we chase happiness 24/7, he argues, we miss the point. Pain, uncertainty, loss—these are unavoidable, incontrovertible facts of life. But when you’ve found something that you truly give a “f*ck about,” these obstacles become surmountable. You begin to care less about adversity and more about purpose.
On stage, Manson is a breath of fresh air. Honest, direct, and surprisingly funny, he helps audiences sift through the mundane parts of life and find meaning. We’ll leave you with a recent keynote at DNX Berlin (below), where he illustrates this using two travel stories: a food poisoning nightmare in India and a motorbike mishap in Thailand.
Pick up The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck wherever you buy your books. Or better yet, hire Mark Manson as your organization’s next keynote speaker by contacting The Lavin Agency, his exclusive speakers bureau.