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Is Winning Overshadowing Integrity? Pamela Meyer On Cheating
Sports | May 16, 2013

Is Winning Overshadowing Integrity? Pamela Meyer On Cheating

"Our tolerance for disgrace, and our obliviousness to honor has become appalling," Liespotting author Pamela Meyer writes in The Huffington Post. Recent incidents in professional sports provide perhaps the most telling examples of this statement in action. Take the world of professional golf, for example. Two golfers, several years apart, found themselves in violation of the rules put in place by the Professional Golf Association. On the 15th hole, the first golfer (Tiger Woods—you may have heard of him) intentionally neglected to take a penalty stroke for dropping his ball in the water. In short, he cheated. The second golfer (a lesser known Michael Thompson) didn't wait to see if he could get away with not keeping an accurate score. Instead, he called a penalty stroke on himself. Tiger Woods would rebound from being caught cheating to later win a big tournament a month or so later. In contrast, the mention of the latter player's name elicits little more than a shrug and a lack of recognition. "That stark dichotomy is a fresh reminder that we have to be careful to value sportsmanship over victory, integrity over winning," Meyers says.

It is easy to place the desire to win over sportsmanship. "[But] if winning is everything and cheating is nothing, then our values may have followed suit," Meyers explains. "Such a momentous sea change would not just change professional sports. It would change our kids and our communities as well." Being a good sport and playing with integrity seems to have become the exception rather than the rule, she adds. And the consequences of that can spill off the court and into society as a whole. While organized sports can teach us a lot of good qualities, there are some bad habits that can be taken from the sports world, as well. "Humility translates easily from the basketball court to the courtroom. Integrity moves just as fluently from the soccer pitch to the boardroom," Meyers stresses, "but so does a willingness to cheat, or an openness to place personal gain above personal honor."

As a Certified Fraud Examiner, Meyers is an expert in detecting deception. In her talks, she says that humans lie almost 200 times a day—a startling statistic outlining our natural tendencies to be dishonest. At both her private consulting firm and in her stage presentations, Meyers shows us how we can detect deception. Lies have no inherent power until someone believes them, Meyers argues. If we can learn to pick out the truth from a lie, a cheat from an honest player, we can work toward interacting with others with integrity and honor—whether it's in a sports match, during a conversation with a friend, or a high-profile negotiation in a corporate boardroom.
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