Is Winning Overshadowing Integrity? Pamela Meyer On Cheating
It is easy to place the desire to win over sportsmanship. "[But] if winning is everything and cheating is nothing, then our values may have followed suit," Meyers explains. "Such a momentous sea change would not just change professional sports. It would change our kids and our communities as well." Being a good sport and playing with integrity seems to have become the exception rather than the rule, she adds. And the consequences of that can spill off the court and into society as a whole. While organized sports can teach us a lot of good qualities, there are some bad habits that can be taken from the sports world, as well. "Humility translates easily from the basketball court to the courtroom. Integrity moves just as fluently from the soccer pitch to the boardroom," Meyers stresses, "but so does a willingness to cheat, or an openness to place personal gain above personal honor."
As a Certified Fraud Examiner, Meyers is an expert in detecting deception. In her talks, she says that humans lie almost 200 times a day—a startling statistic outlining our natural tendencies to be dishonest. At both her private consulting firm and in her stage presentations, Meyers shows us how we can detect deception. Lies have no inherent power until someone believes them, Meyers argues. If we can learn to pick out the truth from a lie, a cheat from an honest player, we can work toward interacting with others with integrity and honor—whether it's in a sports match, during a conversation with a friend, or a high-profile negotiation in a corporate boardroom.